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Laura Lewis's avatar

Hi Lulah, I'm new to your work but I just wanted to comment to say that the way you write is so beautiful. I also wanted to send my love at what I know from experience to be an incredibly tender time. I separated from my ex husband (the father of my three children) some time ago now and after a marriage far shorter than yours but I will always remember the sense of poignancy that the shadow of my ring evoked once I'd removed it. Such a powerful emblem for the process that we must move through in the years to follow.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thanks for being here and for your kind words. Sorry you’ve been through this too x

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afroliage's avatar

Deepest love to you, Lulah. May you be held in this tender time. I’m so glad you have your lovely cottage to expand into. And I very much hope that our paths cross again soon!

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thanks so much Marchelle x

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Martin Barraud's avatar

No advice or experience Lulah but I do admire your courage in writing this - and very particularly in being fair to all involved in what you say. It’s all the more moving and stronger for this I think.

For me, Grounding had the same honesty, openness and self-reflection.

Bon Chance to you all, and I hope you can relish the certainty & engagement of full time copywriting. As a lifelong creative freelancer, I hear you.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thank you Martin

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Hattie Morrison's avatar

The way you write about your body expanding, the forcing of the ring on, and then off again is all so stunning. It is a true talent, and what writing is all about, and I am often taken aback by a person's ability to condense real time feeling into real time writing. The way it sings through the work, bounces around it like sunlight - it's just brilliant. I love real writing and this is it - honest as glass.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Oh Hattie, what a lovely message. Thank you.

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Janelle Hardacre's avatar

No advice unfortunately but I hugely admire your courage. And this piece of writing is beautiful.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thank you, Janelle

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Kim Stallwood's avatar

Thinking of you and wishing you a Happy Life.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thanks Kim, good to hear from you. Hope the words are flowing.

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Alva Rosenlund's avatar

Wow. I just want to say thank you for sharing this part of your life. I'm also in the process of separating from my husband, and going through all the grief that entails. We are still friends though, and also living together, somehow making it work. And yeah, what happened to those 15 years together? Who am I now? Who am I becoming? So many reflections, and I do feel guided in all of this.

I know I'm on the right path, despite the hurt. Big hugs to you :)

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thanks for reading, Alva. Sorry to hear you're also navigating this huge change, but it sounds like you're managing it brilliantly, and knowing you're on the right path is a huge help when things feel wobbly, isn't it? Hugs back to you x

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Alva Rosenlund's avatar

Yes, it helps for sure to know I'm on the right path. I tell myself I'm brave when I remember to speak kindly to myself (still working on that one.)

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Monique Gerritsen's avatar

Hi Lulah. I’m a fairly new subscriber, but I wanted to let you know how appreciative i am of you writing your personal story. I haven’t been through what you’re going through, but I’m sending you all my love and strength! X.

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thanks so much, Monique

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Jae C.'s avatar

I am so sorry. That must be so hard to go through. My parents went through such a chaotic process of separating and honestly they were separated way before they signed it on paper. They never really formally told us, but we saw it all happen anyway. Even though it was a tragical thing, it led our families to different magical opportunities... it is still possible to lay hold on every good thing in heart-wrenching consequences. Much love, Lulah. ❤️

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thank you Jae. I’m sorry you had such a difficult time, but it’s lovely to think of the magic that can unfold after hard things happen.

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Kerri ní Dochartaigh's avatar

Sending you deep, bright love Lulah. I really mean it when I say I miss you already and am so excited to see you again. It sounds hard but the way you describe it it feels like there is still such tenderness which is a gift. It will all be ok, more than ok in fact. X

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Ah Kerri, thank you. I know in my bones that things will be ok.

I hope we can meet again soon - your and Marchelle’s words are still resonating around my mind. Was such a beautiful event. Lots of love until the next time Xx

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Snf's avatar

Very. Sorry to hear of your news- wishing you every physical and mental strength going forward ....

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Lulah Ellender's avatar

Thank you

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